Relationships: Beyond Dating

There is nothing more glorious than falling in love! What a wonderful feeling it is, when, after all that searching and seeking, you finally hook up with that compatible mate. But wait! How can you know that the person you think is right for you, really right for you?

It's easy, well, maybe. All you have to do is make sure that you ask the appropriate questions -- queries that will help you establish how your likes and dislikes, and needs and wants, line up with those of your significant other (should that new love become truly significant in your life). And, of course, the reality has to match up to the answers to these questions.

At the right time and place, I suggest people exchange answers to the following questions:

1. Kids or no kids?
2. Smoking or no smoking?
3. Drinking or no drinking? (Same for drugs)
4. Religious beliefs: Match? Blend? Clash?
5. Who works? Who stays home (especially when the kids come along)?
6. Who wants to live where?
7. Who controls the checkbook?
8. What is his/her personal relationship with his/her family? Too distant? Too close?
Too weird? Appropriate to your standards?
9. How are holidays spent? At home? With family? Alone? Vacationing?
10. Windows opened or closed? Heat/AC on or off?
11. What side of the bed must you (he/she) sleep on?
12. Where to spend vacations? Leisure time?
13. Sick: Left alone or babied?
14. Appropriate gift giving: birthdays? Yuletide holidays? Special occasions?
15. Who does what around the house?
16. What is acceptable hygiene?
17. What are his/her hobbies, pastimes?
18. Preferences: Music? Movie? Book favorites?
19. Favorite foods?
20. Pets or no pets? What kind?
21. Decisions about the children: School, church, discipline, allowance,
extra curricular activities, friends, and curfew?
22. Mealtimes: Early or late?
23. Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?
24. Sleeping habits: Four hours or eight?


Three more compatibility factors
If this list is not enough to help you determine whether or not your new love is right for you, try these as additional ways to size up the compatibility factor: How does your new love handle a crisis? Behave in public places? Treat your friends and family?

I also think you can tell a great deal about your new mate by the way he treats his mother and how she treats her father. Observing how a person regards that parent is key in establishing how he or she will treat you!

If you are in love -- if you've finally met Mr. or Ms. Right -- step back from all that awe and wonderment for a moment and get answers to all of the above. You will find out whether or not this new relationship (the one you've been looking for all this time) is one that will or will not last. As they say, love can be blind, but if it is going to last, love also has to be practical!

I'm so conflicted in my mind

You're kissing me And saying I'm the one you need To keep you warm And lay with you tonight. Baby I feel the same way I don't want to leave Wanna hold you close And feel your love inside But I don't wanna play myself Cause I know you're with someone else And I don't need complications in my life And I don't wanna fall back in And get caught up in you again Baby I'm so conflicted in my mind Obviously, procrastinating just to be Close to you a little longer now
It's hard for me to break away from you baby Never could resist you And I still haven't learned how And I don't wanna be a fool But it's hard when it comes to you And I'm feeling vulnerable tonight Cause I don't wanna miss the chance Of reliving our sweet romance Baby I'm so confused down deep inside You keep saying stay the night Just let me rock you till the morning light It's cold outside And much too late to drive You know I need you baby I'm so lost without your love.

 

Hold On

You tried so hard to be someone

That you forgot who you are

You tried to fill some emptiness

Til all you had spilled over

Now everything's so far away
That you don't know
Where you are
You are

When all that you wanted
And all that you have
Don't seem so much
For you to hold on to
For you to hold on to
For you to belong to

When it's hard to be yourself
It's not to be someone else
Still everything's so far away
That you forget where you are
You are

When all that you wanted
And all that you have
Don't seem so much
For you to hold on to

Clock Watching

Take off both your shoes and clothes I’ll follow
Undo corkscrew drink from the half of a broken bottle
Lately we’re running out of time, aren’t we?
Smoking often and calling out our guilty pleasures
Let’s keep talking anything to stop clock watching
Lately we’re running out of time.
aren’t we crazy for running all the time? Maybe
Let’s forget we’re running out of time

I’m off like an aeroplane
I’m licking your postage stamp again
I’m using my right brain and I’m praying that we don’t crash
Who knew I’d come so fast?
So what if a two pump chump can’t last
But I made it to three and I foreclosed a five-minute fantasy
On a short lived flight making love on economy

No jumping conclusions
I don’t think there’s no solution
Let’s get backwards and forget our restless destination
Let’s live in the moment just this time could we
Just take one moment of our time maybe
Let’s forget we’re running out of time.

Jeff & Judi

How it feels to be happy ? That question still rings on my mind. I'm so bored to be someone that so so so Sad. Till one day I got a phone call by someone which I don't recognize. He ask me to reserve for a cottage, his name is Jeff Ericksons. He's so funny on the phone. It's like long ago I know him. I do my best for him to get the best rate but I can't give him the best rate, you know company policy. When I met him "Oh my God" He's so friendly, nice, cute and funny. He give me suggestion to increase my weight. He's a yoga teacher.
We had fun conversation, I never feel so happy meeting someone before. But Jeff makes me happy. He have appointment at 7 with his friend Judi at Kudos. Then I offered to drive him to Kudos. Kudos still closed at 7 PM and open at 10 PM, we are way to early. Then Jeff & I wait for Judi at Mix Well, then I saw a taxi came in front of Mix Well and I said to Jeff "I think that's Judi". That's right ! That's Judi !
Judi is Jeff's neighbour it's about 200 meters from Jeff's house, so strange they dont recognize each other but they met in Bali, hahaha. If in Java whom stay 500 meters from our home we recognize them.
Judi is kind of lovely and so so so friendly. She have briliant idea.
I ask them to go to the beach on sunday at 11 PM. But when we arrived at Jeff's hotel, Jeff still sleeping. I dont want to disturb him but Judi wake him up ! hahaha !
Then we go to the beach and the adventure is begin ! They have pedicure, manicure and shopping ! I'm glad to know them, at least I'm happy although just a while ! I never feel this way, so damm happy ! Thank you Jeff & Judi.

They are not like western guys that so mean, they are so cool !

So nice to meet you !

Jeff & Judi, I'm having a good time with you ! I hope we will meet again !
Judi dont forget to invite me to your wedding and send me the pictures ! Jeff you can stay in my house as long as you want !

See you guys !

What's stuck in your mind boi ?

I will do what ever it takes to make my weight back again. 10 kilogram lost. I do eat alot but it never work out. Some fellas said "just relax your mind". Yeah that right ! I never feel so happy in my life. I kept thinking about the real me.  I don't know who am I. I just wanna be happy like other people that I saw on the beach. They really have agood time. Free their mind but I don't.

I just want to be happy, who's gonna love me if I never feel happy ? If someday I feel so that happy my weight will increase. Hahaha !

What's stuck in your mind boi ?